Post by Trev Williams on Apr 12, 2007 12:26:48 GMT -1
from the CBT model I am studying I thought it might be useful to say something about bottom lines..
a bottom line might be "I am ugly", "I am unloveable", "I am useless", These are irrational feelings which are often concluded when we are feeling low or vunerable.
it would be important to try and make a new bottom line and to try and support it.. eg "I am loveable", perhaps someone might have arranged to meet up with you, that proves they like you.. and rather than focusing on the disapointment when someone else might have not wanted to meet.
"I am usefull" try and focus on things you have achieved recently, eg making a meal, perhaps speaking to someone you found difficult..
trying to rationalise bottom lines is very useful as it makes it easier to see positive points, but first of all you need to work out what your bottom line is. can anyone else think of some other bottom lines and how they could change them?..Trev
a bottom line might be "I am ugly", "I am unloveable", "I am useless", These are irrational feelings which are often concluded when we are feeling low or vunerable.
it would be important to try and make a new bottom line and to try and support it.. eg "I am loveable", perhaps someone might have arranged to meet up with you, that proves they like you.. and rather than focusing on the disapointment when someone else might have not wanted to meet.
"I am usefull" try and focus on things you have achieved recently, eg making a meal, perhaps speaking to someone you found difficult..
trying to rationalise bottom lines is very useful as it makes it easier to see positive points, but first of all you need to work out what your bottom line is. can anyone else think of some other bottom lines and how they could change them?..Trev