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Post by Trev Williams on Feb 5, 2009 16:15:45 GMT -1
I don't know if this should just be the same thread as depression.. but feeling alone is very different from being alone. In fact I have often felt the most alone when I have lots of people around me, sometimes even friends, family.. I still feel really alone.. bit of a strange one. I think security comes from being comfortable when you are on your own, this is why so many relationships fall over because there is a dependance on each other.. maybe that's a healthy thing? i don't know... but certainly if you don't see support around you when it's there, then that's sad that's not nice and i've been there a few times.. often if you focus too much on one person, or support, (or for my music one magazine or reviewer).. you can loose perspective and balence. but really to feel supported you need a variety of people, not just one close friend or partner. i think anyway. hope you enjoyed the snow if you had some
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Post by facebook on Feb 7, 2009 12:07:12 GMT -1
I hate falling out with real friends.. it's hard to remember there are people behind some of this virtual world. One of my close friends has often said to me the internet is evil?? is he right? maybe it's more to do with perspective. A lot people use the internet for social contact.. I would argue that that is the worst use of it.. much better to spend half an hour with a real person than 300 virtual friends who you don't even know? another friend drove for miles to come and talk to me rather than get into the Email loop i so often fall down, he spoke about body language, tone of voice, emotion.. real things.. real context.. the internet balence can be used constructively but I have met very few people who get positive feelings out of having lots of virtual friends.
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Erica
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Post by Erica on Feb 10, 2009 21:02:44 GMT -1
I agree with Trev on his points. Sometimes when I’m in the middle of a crowd I can feel the most alone. I think being lonely causes us to do things that we wouldn’t normally do. My sense of feeling lonely actually drew me to the internet a long time ago.
It’s really easy to get lost in the virtual world. It’s easy to try to find your sense of belonging in chat rooms or forums. While they meet an immediate need, often times they leave people feeling empty. (I know that first hand).
With that said though, I think it really depends on experience. I've met a few of my "real life" friends on the internet (I met my roommate online), but I've also met a lot of people who misrepresent themselves. It’s fun to meet people from different areas of the world who have your common interests, but you do have to find your balance.
If you are going to the internet to meet an emotional need you may end up feeling lonelier. And nothing beats the feeling of an actual hug from someone who cares about you.
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datacruz
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Post by datacruz on Mar 27, 2009 19:19:41 GMT -1
"he spoke about body language, tone of voice, emotion.. real things.. real context.." Yes, it's so true... I think I'm often taken the wrong way. Mainly I think this is because the 'real me' as oppose to the 'virtual me' has, over the years, tended to be a bit to soft on people, too trusting etc. I perhaps over compensate for this on the internet, but people, society, have taken ‘being economic with the truth’ (relativism etc) too far and it has lead to this economic crisis. So if you see the world in this sort of light it’s easy to find yourself alone. “I never intend to adjust myself to economic conditions that will take necessities from the many to give luxuries to the few.” Martin Luther King at 5:50 uk.youtube.com/watch?v=axg6rnDa5_I&feature=related
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Post by Trev Williams on Oct 16, 2010 10:48:04 GMT -1
I would say that depression often stems from comparison. The main disadvantage with social media is that people mainly document their successes, their achievements. Maybe this is the same in real life too, probably so. But a common behaviour also I've found is to compare to a group of people rather than an individual (which obviously is unhealthy as well as mentioned above). We all now have our group of 'facebook friends' or 'followers on twitter' and therefore there would always be someone doing something more fun/exciting or more 'successful' to what you are doing. Is social networking causing depression? Is social networking an extension of bad media? Is the X factor really helping the music industry!
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